Getting To Know More About Al-Anon
Al-Anon is a network of family support groups, which helps persons whose families are affected by alcoholism. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al- Anon is a support organization for the friends and family members of problem drinkers, founded in 1951. Al-Anon was founded by Lois Wilson, also called Lois W, 16 years after her husband founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). She herself faced the challenge of supporting a convalescent alcoholic, so, she created an organization aimed at people with the same problem. Al-Anon is a self-supported organization which exists thanks to financial contributions from members. The meetings aim to help members cope with and know how to support and help their loved ones fighting alcoholism.
The fight against alcoholism is a joint undertaking and that is the objective of this support group.
The Effects On A Family Due To Alcoholism
The people close to the alcoholic person are also affected in one way or the other and Al-Anon seeks to help them also overcome the challenge they might be facing. It is integral for the alcoholic's recovery to have a family and friend support system around them.
Some family members blame themselves for their loved one's drinking or may not realise why recovery is their loved one's primary concern. These problems are handled by meetings and members are assisted to understand alcoholism as a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Meetings For Teenagers
Besides, Al-Anon has a group named Alateen organized specially for young people whose family member suffers from alcoholism.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
The Advantages Of Al-Anon Group
Alcoholism has affected many people directly and indirectly and you will meet these people in this program. The best part about this program is that you can all relate with the same issue. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Phone us on 0800 246 1509 , and we'll help you find the one near you.
What You Should Anticipate From A Meeting
The meetings held by Al-Anon are open to any individual who could be affected by the alcoholism of another individual. Contact an Al-Anon group near you if you are concerned about someone who is drinking more than they should or who is making your life stressful because of their drinking.
A number of people are not certain about what they can expect and are therefore, hesitant to attend their first meeting. Here are some things to remember when considering whether to attend a meeting:
- First and foremost, attending Al-Anon is anonymous
- Everyone in that room is affected one way or another by the alcoholism of a friend or family member
- You are not forced to talk or discuss your issues though it is encouraged
- There Are Several Kinds Of Meetings
- Some could be more productive for you than the others.
- Al-Anon is not an organization which is based on any religion
- The meetings are concentrating on the 12-step program which has been designed by Al-Anon
Going to the meeting means that you accept the fact that there are matters discussed that will be of help to you or not. In this way, instead of telling attendees what they should do, meetings target on exchanging experiences and difficulties.
The 12 Stages Of Al-Anon
As a rule, group meetings begin with reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. These twelve steps are an abridged, almost verbatim, quote from the same-name program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Similarly to AA, Al-Anon members rely on a facilitator who guides them through the steps and who is always ready to support when the going gets tough. The 12 Steps are as follows:
- We did admit we were powerless over alcoholism, that our lives became unmanageable indeed.
- The members learn how to accept alcohol addiction as an illness, which they cannot control if somebody else suffers from it.
- Accepted that a Power greater than ourselves could bring back our mental health.
- Members often drive themselves to the brink in an attempt to change or control their loved one.
- After they admit they are powerless, they learn how to accept that they can be helped to regain their sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- It is important that members learn to let go.
- Made a searching and a fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Self-discovery is an essential component of the steps, and this is the start of that.
- The group members write down a list of the instances when they may have been unfair to themselves or their significant others (for example, threats).
- Admitted to god, to ourselves and to other human being the precise nature of our wrongs.
- Permitting them to dig into each issue, this is an examination of every thing in the members moral inventory.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- This step allows the member to off-load his recovery to someone greater and bigger than themselves to handle.
- calmly begged Him to remove our drawbacks.
- This part of the 12 steps provides members with the assistance needed to understand how they may have been exercising control or being judgmental towards an addict and how these actions are counterproductive.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
- Usually, making up for the wrongs done begins with oneself.
- Many people blame themselves for their loved ones addiction.
- They must be willing and prepared to forgive themselves and to make amends.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Working on the steps of recovery and help after forgiving yourself is the next step.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Passing through these twelve Steps is a time-consuming process.
- There is also a possibility for relapse when trying to recover in the program.
- It s usually a duration and this is outlined by stage 10.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Self acceptance is the major key to all the stages of recovery.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
- Step 12 involves the member acknowledging the story has not ended.
- Encouragement is provided to members to support other members with their education.
Recognising The Higher Power
Members recognise there is a spiritual power that helps them to recover. Every member has their own religion affiliation. Al-Anon gladly accepts members from all religious traditions and denominations; nobody is forced to alter their beliefs here.